The” Men Tell All” special is generally hands down a better show than “Women Tell All”. The men lay it all out fairly and honestly while the women get caught up in the cattiness. The men are able to understand that they just weren’t the one, while the women keep pining away thinking of they’d only had more time. While both men and women tend to gang up on one or two people who may (William) or may not (Ryan P.) have deserved it, only with the men do you notice guys who you never noticed during the season due to editing shine when given the chance to speak and interact with others.
I’m sure many people will disagree with me, but watching William’s montage and his interview only served to heighten my sense that the guy is indeed, in his own words, a jackass. He may have been trying to feel sorry, or trying to appear the nice guy, but it was obvious to everyone that he threw Ben C. under the bus and that his roast of Ashley was based in his own truth. Ultimately, I think he’s just a little immature, but there’s also a bit of a hidden manipulator with low self-esteem hiding inside.
Alternatively, Ryan P. is a decent and genuine guy who sincerely hoped for a relationship with Ashley. The guys mercilessly made fun of him on the show and in person on “Men Tell All”. Seems to me that a lot of what bothered some of the guys about Ryan was their own discomfort with his feminine side. Ryan, like Jason Mesnick before him, has a true wholeness about him. He’s able to be open with his emotions and is always optimistic. When he admitted he read the books filled with questions the guys snickered and laughed, but given the choice, I’d want the man who took the process seriously enough to prepare. Blake seemed to be the one giving it to him the hardest and I have to say, having watched Blake’s reaction to the Bentley revelation, Ryan is the more mature and better man by far. There’s a reason they picked Blake to be on the Bachelor Pad with the likes of Kasey, Rated R, Graham Bunn, and Jake Pavelka.
My final thoughts on the “Men Tell All” episode have to do with the guys that shine. The ones you think, if only she’d seen you this comfortable you could’ve been a contender. This is unique to the guys show. Very rarely is there a woman that you think, “Oh, he should’ve kept her.” Tonight’s winner was obviously Nick. Well spoken, compassionate, and fair, he went after the jerks of the group bringing objective and common sense questions to the table. I love it when a guy can defend his peers when everyone else is attacking. Highly evolved men like that are one in a million and definitely the kind of man I’d want to date.
In the end, I can’t wait for tomorrow night’s show. I am a firm believer that Ashley is right this minute in love and engaged to one J.P. Rosenbaum. I hope they will be a couple that will follow in the footsteps of Trista and Ryan, Andrew and Jen (even though they didn’t make it long-term – I think it was real.) Jason and Molly, and Ally and Roberto. My only concern still centers on Ashley herself. Can she love herself enough to let someone else truly love her? The fact that J.P. is older and wiser gives them a chance…Good luck to them. Or to her and Ben, if I’ve missed the boat on what true love looks like.