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How One Boring Night Turned Me Into a K‑Drama Rom‑Com Addict

I stumbled onto K-Dramas one dull summer evening a few years ago on Hulu. I’ve always enjoyed subtitles and there was show called Kiss Sixth Sense that caught my eye. I can vaguely recall the premise, a woman got premonitions when she kissed a certain man, but what I most remember is how it made me feel. I love a good comfort show. A show that I know, despite conflict or crisis, is going to work out in the end. If it has romance, a little comedy, and a little of the supernatural, it ticks all the boxes for me. K-Dramas also often have an earnestness, deep family relationships, and developed side characters that are hard to find these days. After watching that show, I felt satisfied in a way that I hadn’t since the early days of Hallmark movies, when they weren’t a formula I could predict with acting that made me cringe (yes – those days existed).

I didn’t know that I had initiated an addiction that would supplant all other tv viewing (except Peacock’s Traitors) for me for the foreseeable future. I moved onto a drama streaming on Netflix called Chocolate. This was about a doctor who went to work in a hospice and a woman who ended up a chef at that same hospital. It introduced to me to the elements of K-dramas that I now look forward to…a childhood connection very slowly revealed, a cast of side characters that feel like family and have real personalities instead of being filler, a second male lead that you know it won’t work with, but is still enticing in their own way (the seconds in Hallmark are sooo unworthy), a very long awaited first kiss, and loads of tears that I shed in empathy, sympathy, and relief.

From there, I found the four series that stoked my addiction so hard that I subscribed to Viki, an Asian platform with almost every Drama I could want. These four are still my all time favorites: King the Land (Netflix), What’s Wrong with Secretary Kim?, Hometown Cha Cha Cha, and Suspicious Partner. These are solid romances with zingy dialogue, great chemistry, a little comedy, solid characters, and lots of episodes. Traditional K-dramas are basically 16 episode contained stories – no season twos. Recently Netflix has been making 10 – 12 episode series, a move that I think is taking them scarily close to the formulaic, glossy and forgettable Hallmark movies of today, but I digress.

One of the things that happened to me, and to most of my friends who had never watched Korean dramas before, was that we suddenly became obsessed with fabulously swoon-worthy Korean actors that we would never have known existed until we watched them in these rom-coms. Ji Chang-wook was my first real K-drama crush and I devoured Healer and Suspicious Partner.  Park Bo Gum became a favorite of not only mine, but my 76 year-old mother who has also become an addict. We both loved Encounter and Love in the Moonlight (a historical Drama romance – a whole other category of romance I never would have imagined loving). There are too many others to mention, but Lee Jun-ho (King the Land), Kim Seon-ho (Hometown Cha Cha Cha), and Kim Jae-wook (Her Private Life) took me down rabbit holes of their work.

I have yet to introduce someone to the rom-com K-drama genre that hasn’t watched more than one. I highly recommend giving them a try. My mom is still mad at me because once you start one, it’s hard to do anything else. Still, the joy they’ve brought me is absolutely real and I am so glad I took a chance that one boring night.

Disclaimer: I am not affiliated with Ji Chang-wook or his management team. All referenced social media content belongs to Ji Chang-wook and is shared here for informational and fan appreciation purposes only. Please visit his official Instagram account for original content.

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The Lucky One, Time, and Romance

Watching the credits roll for The Lucky One, a few thoughts floated around in my head.  I pondered Zac Efron’s age and if it was appropriate for a woman my age to be so absolutely smitten and the fact that despite the panning from critics, it was a perfectly satisfying movie for its intended audience – hopeless romantics.  But the thought that brought me to my laptop relates to romance and our experience of time. I don’t think I’ve ever really noticed how intricately they connect.

Time is a funny thing.  When you’re doing something you love it can seem to fly by, or exactly the opposite, it can saunter and meander with the best of them.  For me, watching my favorite love stories always slows time down.  There’s something about settling into a film, liking the characters and trusting love will triumph no matter how bleak the picture so you mind as well enjoy the ride, that actually allows me to enjoy the ride.

In a way, real life love leads us into the same kind of experience.  There’s something about falling in love that lets you savor the moments. Days seem longer and hours last forever when you’re with the person you love.  Not only that, the time that you spend away from that person seems to take on a different quality as well.  People you couldn’t stand get a smile and the two minutes you couldn’t be bothered for seems easier to give.

While I’ve experienced both of the above examples, I’ll admit it was something I haven’t that left the little tug in my heart at the end of the movie.  It’s probably the intertwining of time and romance that is least likely to be real, the most mythical part of the romance novel or film.  It may be the reason I sit through sappy flicks, read romance novels, or even choose to write.

In The Lucky One, Logan ends up with a job at Beth’s home.  They are in contact every day.  She watches him reluctantly at first but as TIME goes by she ever so slightly opens herself up to possibility.  The circumstances of their existence give you the confidence that they have all the time in the world to get to where they are going – true love.

How many of us ever really get that? In my everyday life, even if I were to meet a man who I could be interested in (and I am finally ready to really date again), it would have to happen in the small openings of free time here or there.  He would have a job.  I would have a job.  There are family obligations and too many things crowding our lives for what happens in the movies to ever really happen in the light of day.

Sitting in that movie, I could believe for a second that there are places that exist where people have time to fall in love.  When I read a romance novel I enjoy all the time the leads have to spend together without reading about what happened in the 16 hours they weren’t together.  When I write, I can spend as much time as I want with any of my characters.  Is it too much to hope that a love can be organic instead of scheduled? Does love only happen that way when you are independently wealthy or a lottery winner? Or is it in the choices we make? Is it that when we are faced with finding the person we are attracted to, we must choose to see time differently? Do we make our own reality?  Does romance come from time or does time come from romance?